Thursday, March 20, 2014

Parenting hasn't stopped me from pursuing my passions {$100 gift card giveaway from Delivery Man}

Parenting hasn't stopped me from pursuing my passions == Hobo MamaIt's interesting to think about pre-parent me and who I was six and a half years ago compared with today. It's incredible the ways being a parent has changed me — not just in terms of stretch marks, a higher tolerance for being peed on, and the adopting of phrases my mom used to say that I swore I never would — but in ways that affect my deepest core and have brought me into my true self.

Pre-kids Sam and me could do pretty much anything, and so we did. We didn't have much money, but we still traveled a lot, went to plays and concerts and museums, started businesses, moved across the country just because, watched multi-day marathons of TV shows on DVD, practiced music and wrote songs, volunteered long hours, took continual adult-education classes, and enjoyed it all.

I don't regret who I was then, and I don't regret that my life has changed. I imagine some of it would have changed with age and circumstances in any case, but I can definitely see how before becoming a parent, I had pretty much my own inclinations to consult for what I wanted to do on any given day and in my broader life planning. I wasn't selfish or thoughtless — that's just how my life was.

Parenting hasn't stopped me from pursuing my passions == Hobo MamaNow my own inclinations come toward the end of the priority list. I have two little munchkins whose needs necessarily come before my own. I have to make sure other people get enough sleep and food and love and play before anything else can happen. I can't take a break if I'm sick or tired or sick and tired of another tantrum or sibling squabble. I've had to grow up, in other words, and be the parent, because that's who they need me to be. I don't regret that, either, and it's been a beneficial learning and growing process, even as it felt at the beginning like being thrown into the deep end.

On the flip side, I've noticed something really intriguing in the way this more structured, seemingly restricted life has allowed me to blossom.

Before becoming a parent, I didn't do as much to pursue my dreams and goals. I knew I wanted to write a novel, for instance, but I figured I had to wait until that was all I was doing. Meanwhile, we had other things going on, and no pressing urgency to get that novel done right then.

I even had hoped that getting pregnant with my first would light the fire under me I needed — that I would finish my novel before his birth, since clearly I wouldn't have time after he was born. Right?

It didn't happen. But after his birth: I started a blog, and it grew. I wrote a novel, and then several besides. I published several books and am working on more.

With my time so much less "perfect," I now realized there is no perfect time for pursuing your goals and becoming the person you want to be. It's now — it's all now.

My children grow so quickly, right before my eyes, reminding me of that daily now that is all we have. I've learned to take what I need for myself as I can grab it, and make room in my busier life as a mother of two and a homeschooler to carve out the writing time my soul craves. Funny how life comes together that way!

 

Parenting hasn't stopped me from pursuing my passions == Hobo Mama

 

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169 comments:

618mom said...

My kids have change me by making me top and smell the roses in life.
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618mom said...

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Elena said...

having kids made me more patient

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Elena said...

https://twitter.com/ElenaIstomina/status/446746010908237824

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Mami2jcn said...

Having children has made me appreciate the small moments. Before I had kids, I seemed to be in a rush all the time and anxious to move onto the next thing. Now I wish I could freeze time.

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Mami2jcn said...

tweet:

https://twitter.com/mami2jcn/status/446762625582383104

freebiequeen15 said...

My kids have taught me to be more patient and appreciate the smallest of moments

Lauren Eggers said...

My daughter has taught me many things. Responsibility and being less "flightly", but also, to really enjoy the little stuff. The biggest thing was realizing there is still a child inside me thats in awe of new things neyabenz(at)gmail(dot)com

Meegs said...

Gwen reminds me to slow down, and see the magic in everyday life. She has also helped me practice my patience. :-)

clc408 said...

Having kids has taught me what real responsibility is, and feeling responsible doesn't end after they are grown.

clc408 said...

Tweet
https://twitter.com/clc408/status/447096484991729664

Natalie said...

My niece and nephew have taught me to appreciate the people in my life and recognize the importance of relationships. They also have taught me to make a conscious effort to be happy and pleasure the little things in life. They have taught me not to take life too seriously and don't sweat the small stuff.

peg42 said...

Having kids as taught me to be more responsible and patient. Thanks so much.
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peg42 said...

I tweeted: https://twitter.com/peg42/status/447125890569211904
Thanks again.
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Kia89 said...

Made me be more patient.
austma7@aol.com

Amy said...

I don't have a kid, but I have a dog who is my "kid". :-) She's taught me to be happier, in general. I love how dogs are always happy!

jessica holybee said...

Having children gave me more confidence in myself and my abilities

Anastasia Falling said...

My kids have taught me better critical thinking as well as making me better at compromising :)   I need both in order to watch out for my kids best interests, as well as balancing freedom with good choices :) 
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Anastasia Falling said...

Tweeted :) - https://twitter.com/Enter_Now/status/447306247008555008
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One Frugal Girl said...

https://twitter.com/OneFrugalGirl/status/447370255737032704

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One Frugal Girl said...

That my heart can fill with more love than I ever could have imagined.

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Jamie said...

“To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable.” ~CS Lewis

I think he said it best... Thanks for hosting!

Thomas Gibson said...

My daughter has taught me how to love others and to take things simple.





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chambanachik said...

They have shown me how beautiful it is to be selfless.

chambanachik(at)gmail(dot)com

mickeyfan said...

When I had kids, I learned what unconditional love is. I learned that even 30 years later, you still worry. And I learned the best thing about having kids is GRANDkids!

sarah said...

my kids have changed me for the better because i try to be a good example and role model for them, so i am more aware of doing the right things at the right times.
stigay at comcast.net

sweepmom said...

Having kids has helped me to look at the positive and not focus on the negative.

susan1215 said...

Having children has made me less selfish, have more patience, be more loving and more responsible.

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susan1215 said...

https://twitter.com/susan1215/status/447482552970801152

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PAIGE said...

They have given me patience, understanding, and the ability to unconditional love.
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Denise S. said...

Its made me more responsible and concerned about the future of the country.
lazybones344 at gmail dot com

Stephanie said...

more patience and look at things through children's eyes - simple joys

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RICHARD HICKS said...

They have taught me to have lots of patience and given me new perspective on life.

RICHARD HICKS said...

https://twitter.com/ardy22/status/447594987799056384

HilLesha said...

My children taught me selflessness and unconditional love. :-)

Lesha@tothemotherhood.com

Lisa Brown said...

Having children has taught me patience, which was a big problem for me. You cannot be impatient with children at all, and with my new-found patience, it has made other areas of my life better, especially relationships with others. I find the care of children rewarding and watching them grow and change is wonderful.

Lisa Brown said...

https://twitter.com/LuLu_Brown24/status/447712601267400704

MAGEZ said...

They have taught me to be understanding

Aleksandra Nearing said...

We start almost every day with a fruit and vegetable smoothie. Our Blendtec has over 700 uses!
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Tamar said...

Yes, they've given me a newfound appreciation for life.
I was pretty depressed until I met my husband and then had my children. I am so happy with them.
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Janna Johnson said...

I don't have my own kids but the kids at my job remind me that people are resilient in the face of life.

Melissa Neece said...

I love my child and all that he teaches me every day. He is such an amazing little person!
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Melissa Neece said...

I tweeted about your contest.
https://twitter.com/eversienna/status/447806233320226816

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Jeannine S said...

They have taught me to be more compassionate, to help others more and have patience

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Jeannine S said...

They have taught me to be more compassionate, to help others more and have patience

mellanhead74 at hotmail.com

The Fam said...

I'm so much more patient, and less judgmental of others!

shannoncarman at yahoo dot com

The Fam said...

https://twitter.com/channynn/status/448098547959738368

Heavensangel2387 said...

We tried for a year to have a baby, and then finally found out we were having twins. They have changed our lives for the better. My husband and I have gotten closer to God because of the things we went through trying to get pregnant and my son being in the Nicu (5 weeks early).
We do not drink anymore, we are more patient, we both appreciate the little things in life more, and we just dedicate our lives and time to our kids. They are such a blessing and truly are the GREATEST gift!!
Thank you!!
faithrains2387 (At) Yahoo.com

Heavensangel2387 said...
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Heavensangel2387 said...

Tweet:
https://twitter.com/heavensangel238/status/448268324435009536
Faithrains2387 (at) yahoo.com

Rebecca Graham said...

They have helped me to slow down and smell the roses.

rhoneygtn at yahoo dot com

Carmen Van Deursen said...

I have to say stability. Because of them I've stayed in the same home, dentist, job etc in a very good way. We have learned to stay committed no matter what and worked through issues but still maintain our ground and stability. Love my kids!

Carmen Van Deursen said...

Tweet
https://mobile.twitter.com/eve2570/status/448599386574958593?screen_name=eve2570


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JC said...

I learn to appreciate patience and surprises.
tcarolinep at gmail dot com

JC said...

-https://twitter.com/tcarolinep/status/448657751460151296

Heather Sebastian said...

They taught me patience and to not take myself or life too seriously :)
heatheranne99 at gmail dot com

Heather Sebastian said...

Tweet!
https://twitter.com/ScoomerBlog/status/449049406310858753

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Nadine Larsen - ToBeFitByFifty said...

Having my daughter made me a more patient person. I was always pretty patient, but with her I learned to make sure I slowed down and enjoy every moment and wait for things, most everything is worth the wait

Nadine Larsen - ToBeFitByFifty said...

I tweeted https://twitter.com/2BeFitBy50/status/449209567730479104

Maryea said...

I learned that love is unending and unconditional

smilekisses said...

Beside keeping me active, I became a responsible person.

smilekisses said...

https://twitter.com/smilekisses/status/449445493660073984

rachel said...


nothing like having kids to make you a planner and way more responsible!

Ashley said...

She taught me patience and unconditional love.

hewella1 at gmail dot com

SexyBrat said...

My kids taught me patience.

wigget said...

i'm able to relate to others better

Barbara Montag said...

Having the girls has helped me learn to trust my own judgment and to be more patient.
thank you

Barbara Montag said...

Tweet
https://twitter.com/JalapenoMama/status/450818585666285568

D Schmidt mummytotwoboys said...

Having children changed me in so many ways, I definitely became less selfish but more importantly I realized I had to take better care of myself because I was responsible for more than just my happiness in life.
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D Schmidt mummytotwoboys said...

Tweeted


https://twitter.com/mummytotwoboys1/status/451075546139484162

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Tina said...

they made me a better person ,stronger and more patience

Tina said...

https://twitter.com/HappyTina0115/status/451176075754610688

Courtney B said...

im a much better parent because i really think SINCE i've had kids i know how to love now

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Courtney B said...

tweet

https://twitter.com/MeandBells/status/451424475213352961

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Maria said...

Trying to have kids has made me more patient and understanding. Maria.whipple at gmail.com


Tj and Amy said...

I have so much motivation to be a better person because of them. To smile to be happy! They have loved me unconditionally. amypugmire@live.com

Tj and Amy said...

tweet. amypugmire@live.com
https://twitter.com/1amypugmire/status/451492574428024832

Maria said...

I also did the alternate entry!
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jtwark said...

my daughter taught me patience

joe gersch

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Cori Westphal said...

My kids have taught me patient and understanding. And the importance of being a little nuts once in a while!

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Cori Westphal said...

Tweet: https://twitter.com/coriwestphal/status/452985095654105089

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mysweetiepiepie said...

I've learned a lot about patience and the power of laughter and developed into a more grounded person.

Wanda McHenry said...

I only have a furbaby, I was unfortunate and couldn’t carry. But, she is our joy and she brings so much love and happiness to our life.

Wanda McHenry said...

https://twitter.com/myfolly/status/453409537304039424

Dionna @ Code Name: Mama said...

First of all, I love your outfit in these pictures :)
My kids have taught me loads of patience, as well as how to live in the moment. <3

Kerry said...

My kids have taught me selflessness and a deeper love than I've ever known!
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Kerry said...

tweeted: https://twitter.com/KerryBishop/status/453684195764621312
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tara pittman said...

Kids add so much more meaning to life and help you to grow up

tara pittman said...

https://twitter.com/kj20082006/status/453759142981693441

ms-texas said...

I learned that even if everything isn't perfect - hey its ok!

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Kim said...

My kids have brought out my playful/creative side!
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Gianna said...

They've made me a more giving person.

MCantu1019 said...

to put others needs first
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kari jasus said...

i am forced to slow down and enjoy every moment

kari jasus said...

https://twitter.com/raggammuffin/status/454603017434959872

Vee said...

He's helped me step outside my own perspective.

cw said...

My daughter has helped me live in the now and see the world through a child's eyes..and laugh more!
cgies25 at hotmail

Misty Battle said...

They have showed me how to pause and enjoy the little things in life!

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Misty Battle said...

My tweet https://twitter.com/mistymarie34/status/454797022873153536

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Lisa Pecora said...

I have changed for the better by putting someone else first and caring more.

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Karina Vega-Villa said...

Being a parent made me realize what my priorities really are: I finally chose to become an independent researcher so I could move near family. karina-vegavilla (@) hotmail. Com

Julie said...

I have changed for the better by putting others before myself and having more patient. Thanks for the giveaway aunteegem@yahoo.com

Lisa Voyce said...

Because I had my daughter at such a young age, I had to grow up quite quickly and become responsible adult and parent.

Seyma Bennett Shabbir said...

I have 2 sons, 4 and 6. They have taught me to be more patient.
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Betty C said...

My children have taught me to slow down and enjoy the little things in life.

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Betty C said...

Tweet - https://twitter.com/willitara/status/455638675020185600

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Anna Pry said...

they're helping me be less selfish and more patient pryfamily5@gmail.com

Anna Pry said...

tweeted https://twitter.com/DaPryz/status/455709180276404224 pryfamily5@gmail.com

ms-texas said...

I posted a tweet:

https://twitter.com/bellows22/status/455895650358419456

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Erica C. said...

Made me realize it's okay not to control everything.

Gina Wildorchid said...

My son has made me a much more patient person, and he makes me take the time to stop and appreciate the little things.

Thanks for the chance to win!

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Gina Wildorchid said...

tweet--https://twitter.com/WildOrchid985/status/456017916186853376

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Neiddy Ruiz said...

I used to care what people thought of me but my kids helped me embrace who I really am, they taught me to be and believe in myself and to know that I am loved even when I am not perfect.
neiddyruiz@gmail.com

Neiddy Ruiz said...

my tweet - https://twitter.com/neiddy_ruiz/status/456059295520419840
neiddyruiz@gmail.com

Nancy Hall said...

They make you slow down and see the world from a different view. It seems that until you have kids you don't appreciate the little things.....things you used to just walk by and never gave a thought to.

Nancy Hall said...

Tweet: https://twitter.com/njhhb/status/456083682181136384

Nicole Larsen said...

My kids have made me to constantly strive to be the best mom I can…I quit smoking 5 years ago for them…I’m always trying to set a positive example for them. I was an adventure seeker before them…now I’m much more cautious about EVERYTHING!

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Nicole Larsen said...

tweeted https://twitter.com/pittsy82/status/456165216519061505

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Douglas Houston said...

I tend to be a spur of the moment person but having kids changed that for good. You have to plan things out, you have to bring this, that and the other thing. When a kid has to pee, they mean Now not ten minutes from now.

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Douglas Houston said...

https://twitter.com/ddx155/status/456192230358011904

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DistractedMommy said...

My children taught me unconditional love. I totally learned to enjoy every moment!

DistractedMommy said...

https://mobile.twitter.com/Shiebs24/status/456269356142313472

Harmony Burmeister said...

My kids made me realize what and who are important to have in my life and to appreciate every moment.
njharmonyg at aol dot com

Harmony Burmeister said...

tweet https://twitter.com/hburmeister/status/456350065515167744
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Karen Drake said...

My kids have changed me for the better by making me see life through their young eyes, kids are so positive and see the best in life and other people.
karenldrake@mail.com

Erica Best said...

your life become more about them and less about u

Erica Best said...

https://twitter.com/purplelover04/status/456461864776392704

latanya t said...

I am more patient and enjoy the simple things of life more

dlatany at gmail dot com

latanya t said...

https://twitter.com/sweetums82/status/456462219006312450

dlatany at gmail dot com

dreamcleavers said...

I quit smoking for my little 4 year old daughter because she asked me. After 26 years of the habit I kicked it for her..I want to see her graduate high school!

Admin said...

I feel like having kids made me live in the moment, and taught me what was really important. Being a mom is the best thing in my life. I love my kids more than anything.
4mariemh atgmaildot com

ellie said...

My kids have changed me completely. The minute I had my first son I knew that the world wasn't all about me anymore. For the first time I experienced true selflessness. I have 3 grown sons and 2 grandsons now and they are the most important things in the world to me.

ellie said...

tweet
https://twitter.com/eswright18/status/456552958889447425

vranab said...

Teaching me time management

Maria Simon said...

MY KIDS...ARE MY WORLD AND THEY TAUGHT ME HOW TO WAKE UP SMILING EVERY DAY BC OF THEM :)

Maria Simon said...

TAUGHT ME HOW TO LOVE AND NOT TO WORRY... PUT IT IN GODS HANDS ALWAYS :)

Sky Evans said...

They have shown faith.

Sky Evans said...

https://twitter.com/SkyShyskyk/status/456613315158896640

Francine said...

My kids have taught me to appreciate the little things and patience.

fmd518 at gmail dot com

Jinxy and Me said...

I don't have any kids, but my nephew has made me happier! nest 67 {at} live dot com

Tabathia said...

They have taught me unconditional love, patience and joy

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Tabathia said...

https://twitter.com/ChelleB36/status/456653253015371777

tbarrettno1 at gmail dot com

Tracey said...

My kids taught me patience and letting go to have fun.
traymona[at]aol.com

Amanda Sakovitz said...

They have taught me to be more patient.
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Amanda Sakovitz said...

https://twitter.com/aes529/status/456787453639401473
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Susan Smoaks said...

my kids have changed my life for the better by showing me how to enjoy the little things in life. life is too short to be mad, just smile and have a good time.

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Thomas Murphy said...

My kids have made my alot more responsible and caring.

rounder9834 @yahoo.com

Thomas Murphy said...

https://twitter.com/thomasmurphy40/status/456842212655894528

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Sherry Conrad said...

I am much more concerned with the impact I have on the world around me.
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Sherry Conrad said...

https://twitter.com/dddiva/status/456845861478088704
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Jaime Cummings said...

Having children has made me appreciate the small moments.

Charity/CC said...

My son gives me a reason to want more out of life, and to always strive for better.

ccboobooy at gmail dot com

Charity/CC said...

http://twitter.com/ccboobooy/status/456893269494865920

ccboobooy at gmail dot com

Mihaela Day said...

My kids taught me love, patience and responsibility

slehan said...

I've never had kids. I think they teach you to live in the moment.

Thanks for the contest.

slehan at juno dot com

slehan said...

https://twitter.com/slehan/status/456934132375756800

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TopHat said...

I've definitely learned patience with them and other people around me. I've gained an attitude of "Everyone is doing the best they can in the moment."

hrfarley at gmail dot com

tina reynolds said...

I understand love so much more and the future is even more important I have a million times more patience. I also use to wish for time to fly by (growup) and now I wish it would slow down. 

tina reynolds said...

https://twitter.com/eaglesforjack/status/456975320013238273

Candie L said...

The children have made realize that others are watching me. Thank you


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Epiphius said...

My kids have caused me to better evaluate who I spend time with and allow to influence their lives. I'm a better person because of this.

Howell said...

Made me more responsible.

hlee99 at gmail dot com

Howell said...

I tweeted at

https://twitter.com/leedhowell/status/457414643804553216

hlee99 at gmail dot com

Ashley T. said...

Kids teach me to have more patience!
ajoy1332 at yahoo dot com

Ashley T. said...

https://twitter.com/ajoy1332/status/457523924180271104

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wizardewu said...

Children make me more responsive to others' needs.

eugeniewu [at] gmail-dot-com

Cheryl said...

Having children has made me a better person because God has showed me many lessons of His love through being a parent. Wouldn't change a thing.

Cheryl said...

Tweet:

https://twitter.com/HeartnSoulmom/status/458056407959367680

dizzybloom(at)gmail(dot)com

Cheryl said...

@Cheryl

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