|Do you ever feel like this?|
I spent my first few years as a parent feeling rather lonely when it came to friendships and outings with other parents. Sam and I have finally jumped into the playdate world, and here's what we've found:
|Gymnastics free play!|
|I couldn't resist this one of L2 screaming like a warrior on the trampoline run.|
|These firefighters were awesome.|
|Checking out the ambulance|
|Well, hello, there.|
|Valentine's workshop at Home Depot|
|Moira & Alrik hanging out|
|Sharing a meal (gluten-free for the kids!)|
|Boys & bubbles|
|Swimming in the pool|
|Lowe's kids clinic|
|Reading the Lowe's directions|
|Gnawing on the supplies|
If you're feeling isolated or bored, if you want some adults to talk to and your kids want some other kids to run around with, I just want to encourage you to seek out some resources locally. Even if it's scary at first. Even if you're sure the parents near you won't be your type. And if a group isn't working for you, try another — or start one.
I know it's not always easy. I know it might require some trial and error. Sometimes people will frustrate you and disappoint you, and you might do the same. I know if you live in a remote area, there might not be as many people to choose from. But it's worth a try.
Here are a few places to start your search for a tribe:
- Meetup.com — search by keyword locally
- Attachment Parenting International — find your local support group
- La Leche League — even though it starts off as a breastfeeding support group, it can morph into much more
- Yahoo! Groups — you can find a group on pretty much anything!
- NPN Forums — contribute to the thread on Where in the World are you?
- Mothering.com — Finding Your Tribe
- Local midwives & naturopaths — ask about birth classes, breastfeeding groups, new parent support groups
- Local Montessori, Waldorf, community, or other "crunchy" schools — even if your kids don't go there, they might be able to direct you to some parent groups
Some keyword ideas to get you started: your locale, attachment parents, natural parents, breastfeeding, moms, play group, unschooling, homeschooling, cloth diapers, babywearing … whatever it is that would make you feel part of a cool crowd!
And if you're local to the greater Seattle area, let me know and I'll tell you what I've found.
Here's hoping we can all feel locally supported in this parenting journey — and have some fun along the way!
|Come and play!|
What kind of network do you and your family have where you live? What other resources do you recommend?