Tuesday, October 8, 2019

Commemorating the end of breastfeeding


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After eleven years of breastfeeding three babies, with part of a year off for one pregnancy, I have officially weaned: myself, my babies, my body. I no longer lactate. I have no nurslings. I am done with my breastfeeding time.


Breastfeeding the third and final nursling

Of course, this is bittersweet. I thought a lot about what I did and didn't want to do to commemorate this change in my life. I didn't want to know when the exact last nursing was, for instance. Karsten petered off around age three and a half, and I let that be vague in my mind. I didn't want to know: This is how it ends. I didn't want to worry it wasn't the bestest nursing session ever or wonder if it would repeat. I don't know when the last time was, and that's fine by me.

I needed some time to both grieve and celebrate. Grieve for the end of this period of my life that was wrapped up in childbearing and baby-rearing, in carriers and nursing bras and teething toys and sweet sweaty toddler hands on my neck. Celebrate hanging up my nursing bras and feeling in control of my body again, of having stronger boundaries once more on who can access what and when.

I wanted a memento to cherish this time in my life that spanned three babies and more than a decade, so I deliberated long and hard about breastmilk jewelry.


I eventually went with these beautiful earrings from Hollyday Designs. I typically just wear earrings when I go out, and I like something silver and dangly and that makes a statement. These fit the bill. (I bought these earrings myself; this is not a sponsored post.)


Unfortunately, I was down to literally my last drops of breast milk. I didn't realize as Karsten was winding down that my milk supply had dwindled so thoroughly. I knew his latch wasn't great anymore and that he'd stopped using one breast entirely. That one was no use at all, and the other was barely squeezing out a dab or two of milk whether I hand expressed or used an electric pump. I no longer had any frozen milk stored, since I'd used it up or given it away.


I was feeling frantic, wondering if my dreams of breastmilk jewelry were dashed. I wrote Holly and explained my dilemma, and she said she didn't need much in volume. So I kept hand expressing, every day, truly a drop or two at a time. Eventually, I had maybe a teaspoon or two to send in, so I dithered with it in my freezer for a long time, then finally gave it a hard wish for luck and sent it off.

Because the process had taken so long and I'd delayed even further out of anxiety that the milk wasn't enough, by the time my earrings arrived, I was well and truly past my breastfeeding days. When I opened them up, I was thrilled. They were just as beautiful as I'd hoped, and they work perfectly for my style while also giving me that special warmth of knowing they represent the close bond I've shared with all three of my children for so many years.


Have you looked into commemorative jewelry to celebrate the end of a season in your parenting journey? What did you choose?

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