Time for a music break!
I adore this song from Dar Williams, "The One Who Knows":
It really speaks to how I want to be as a mother.
All the things you treasure most
will be the hardest won.
I will watch you struggle long
before the answers come.
But I won't make it harder —
I'll be there to cheer you on.
I'll shine the light that guides you down
the road you're walking on.
Every time I hear those lines, I think: Yes! I don't want to make it harder. There's enough of struggle in growing as it is, and it's not my job to add to it.
Before the mountains call to you,
before you leave this home,
I want to teach your heart to trust
as I will teach my own.
This is so meaningful to me. I've gone through experiences where I've wondered if trust is worth it, and if it would again be possible for me, and my children demand that growth and commitment from me — and I'm so glad they do.
But sometimes I will ask the moon
where it shined upon you last
and shake my head and laugh and say,
"It all went by so fast."
And you know I can't sing those lines without choking up. Every. Single. Time. It does go by so fast! It does. And one day I'll be asking the moon to check up on my children who've flown the nest.
You'll fly away,
but take my hand until that day.
So when they ask how far love goes
When my job's done, you'll be the one who knows.
You can find the MP3 here.
What are your favorite parenting songs? If you can, share a link to the video in the comments so we can listen along!